Of Fire Pits and Final Walks

The magnificent inside trail in Lorimer Park in autumn

… On Halloween/Samhain

It was October 31, 2015. We had invited Ron for dinner that night. Our Hollywood, Pennsylvania, home was set at the geographical center of town in such a way that year after year not one child would find their way to our door unless they were toddlers brought there by their parents, usually in the afternoon.

We planned to have Ron come for dinner that evening. He called and said he could finish work sooner than expected and said, “How about if I get there early enough so you can show me the new walking trail you’ve been telling me about before dinner?”

At around 3:45 Ron arrived at our home to drive me to Lorimer Park. We parked just outside of Rockledge Park so I could show him the whole scope of the new trail extension.

It was a grey October day, not chilly, not warm, a little damp. We walked from his car, through Rockledge Park where we picked up the Montgomery County trail. I turned toward the property that belongs to the Medical Mission Sisters and told him one of the reasons their founder, Anna Dengel, loved that location was its proximity to Lorimer Park.

We crossed the high bridge, looked down on Shady Lane, and then reached the point where the new trail began. As we walked we comfortably chatted about many things. The conversation grew more serious as we talked about his childhood, our years in Roslyn while I was married to his dad. He had sweet memories of his parents together and we talked wistfully about them. No hard or sad memories of years gone by would be broached that day but tender ones. It was around 4:15 and growing a bit darker as happens early in the autumn.

I again spoke of my interest in Celtic Spirituality, and the belief that this was considered the most sacred of all nights, the night when the veil that separates the living from the dead is at its thinnest. It is the night when those we love who are on the other side of the veil are closest to us and it comforts me to believe that. Ron listened without comment. In Celtic Spirituality, the night is called Samhain (pronounced Sow een’).

Celtic Fire

We reached the point in the trail, about ½ mile in, where there is an opening on the right. Pausing there, I told him that this is the place where the upper and the lower trails connect and that, if you go into the park from there and keep to the right, the trail connects to Fox Chase Farm, which connects to Pennypack Park which ultimately goes all the way to the Delaware River. Ron spontaneously said, “This is so cool. I love it, Mom. Someday, I’ll run through the park and we’ll meet on the trail.” That was the quote we captured for his bench.

We turned back at that spot deciding to go home. The stew was in the crock pot, Tom would be arriving home soon. Ron decided to take a slow ride through Rockledge. It was approaching dusk and some neighbors had hauled fire pits to their front yards. There was an air of joyous Halloween celebration along with the smell of burning wood as parents and kids walked up and down the street greeting one another and gathering around fires. We were entranced by the old timey neighborliness of Rockledge. On subsequent Halloweens I have driven through Rockledge at what I think is about that same time but never could again find the streets with the fire pits.

That Halloween was to be my last time alone with Ron. It is a night I will treasure for always, a conversation about life, love and the sweet intimacy of people whose history is deeply intertwined.

This year I hoped to recapture the Celtic spirit of Samhain by going to the park, light a bonfire and offer libations in honor of Ron and other ancestors who have gone before with the notion that they are closer to us that evening than any other night of the year. Mother Nature, however, seems to have other ideas so the Celtic ritual of the bonfire and libations will hold for another time.

All Hallows Eve

I shall always remember

              where we stopped on the path

              curiously pausing at the old grotto

              that imagines midnight visions.

Quiet conversation as we walked.

It was a sweet conversation, wasn’t it?

I thought so, but memory plays tricks.

The stew I made for dinner turned out painfully bland,

              lacking an elusive savory ingredient.

Standing at the stove,

I turned around

              and saw a look of love in your eyes

              that made me catch my breath.

You made an observation about what the stew needed.

You were exactly right.

“I don’t have it to add now. Next time I will be sure to.”

Next time!

What was that elusive ingredient?

I have tried to remember so often.

I ask, but you cannot answer.

And the next time, the promised next time, was never to be.

Yet here we are again on another Celtic Halloween.

Let us turn toward the thin veil

              and breathe through it

I will receive your spirit

You will receive mine.

On this All Hallows Eve.

From the grave of James Graham, Scotland, 1645:
“Scatter my ashes, strew them in the air
Lord, since thou knowest where all these atoms are,
I’m hopeful Thou’lt recover once my dust,
And confident Thou’lt raise me with the Just.”
Just beside Ron’s bench in Lorimer Park, a carving that was already there when we found the spot.